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About marriage..

It seems so sudden but I really2 in need to write my heart out, things been so janggal and I just dun feel comfortable, thinking about, I dunno - I'm currently 23 and as we all know tis is the weirdest era of transition where it cud be both - single & married. I received lots of questions that now quiet common for tis age; " when will u get married? ", " are u currently seeing somebody? ", " are we getting to eat nasi minyak sooner? ". I'm not sure whether to worry if I dun have anyone, or if I do, have someone!


Another common question is " at what age are u planning to settle things up? " - to be honest, I dunno. I just.. don't know; am I the one who's supposed to go to my future husband's house and ask for his hand in marriage? - ofc not!. So, it's not my decision of dat "when", it shud be the concern of my future husband. 


But when?


I think I'm just gonna write what'll work for me just so later I wud remember to stand on my ground, not all time flying on cloud 9. First, I wud not ask anyone to marry me, even if I have one in my pocket. Because for me, if someone truly wants to marry me, he will propose, or suggest so. And after that it will be on me whether to accept or not - all according to my preference. Next, I wud not be asking the preparation he's currently working on, after the confession. Because to me, if he wants to, then he knows what to do - the savings, the communication, the time and everything relevant. If he seems lost - then he's not ready, so I wud not bother to tell him the right things, until the time has finally come; the moment I feel ready to marry anyone available. 


I got queries too regarding my preference, I'm proudly to write here (but not anywhere hahaha), I wud be easily turned on to someone who stands out differently than the others, one who fearlessly breaks the rules, one who loves discussions, who thinks and knows everything. One who loves to smile, and gentle. One who's very humble, and one who has the common sense - u may say " all men are like tis ", no my love. I've met lots, dated few and even being friends to most who've confessed till now - safe to say THEY ARE NOT THE SAME. They may have one or two of the traits, but not complete package of ALL. So, I dun want. 

If ur asking about feature, then I'm fond of one who has thick eyebrows, pointy nose and lush hair - I discovered that myself cud never run away from being attracted to tis. For I have straight hair, I wud be happier to have a curly-haired. I'm fine too if he's going to be black, or yellow, or whiter than white - as long as he has the features, I'm down for it, and he has to be taller than me. 

Everything has its price, so I'm gonna name it my own here, a very brief one; my mahr shud be something that gonna assist me if I'm being left, or whatnot. It shud be something that act as my emergency kit if anything happens to me later on, and I wud love it to be very close to me - my birthdate. Therefore the amount shall be MYR 5,920.02, and like all weak, XX human being, I also love jewellery more than I love me. So the money shud be packaged w a silver / white gold bracelet, one like the Pandora's design, which to have 5 charms of my personal elements. Another item in the mahr is also the gold / dinar bar - according to the current 2025 price, safe to say that one bar shall be enough (eh ke beli according to harga duit tadi eh? Sebab gold / dinar harga makin naik an hm kene discuss dgn future husbaby dulu so I cud meow u he prefers which) (oh I just changed my mind I think if anything happens I may not sempat utk tukar dinar so the cash is a must in my account, as well the dinar).

For the duit hantaran, I may ask for MYR 10,000.00, where any remaining cents I will gladly slide it to the tabung honeymoon or tabung barangan rumah. From all these long paragraphs conclude that man who wants to marry me shall be prepared of MYR 30,000.00, along w a gold wedding ring. The amount oso includes for his own necessity for the wedding of his side. 


Now can u see the non-urgency to marry me, cuz I want it to be specifically like tis, like right now, only if anyone insists to see me marry. 
 

Sincere not sincere,
Raihana. 

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